WHAT CAN COUNSELLING DO FOR YOU?
Very often couples will come to me hoping to “get back” what they have lost…….trust, intimacy, harmony…… I have found that these keystones to a good relationship are earned. We earn them with our honesty and our desire for the happiness of our partner, and by acting with integrity. I invite you to explore your relationship in light of these three keystones.
What do these much-used terms really mean in your practical life as a partner? that is the journey I will take you on.
Couples that come to me don’t get “patched up” and sent off with bandaids over their wounds. They come to find out more about themselves. They see more clearly what their input is into the relationship. They become more honest about what their partner really gives them. This is not always an easy process….and I treat it with all the love, respect and support it deserves. I will NEVER take sides…..each partner is simply seen for who they are and encouraged to grow.
Very often this will lead to a deepening of love and respect, and a more honest and dynamic relationship.
HERE ARE SOME SITUATIONS I AM HIGHLY SKILLED IN MENTORING
I aim for awakening in each partner the courage and the freedom to be his/her SELF! ……… and adding to the relationship from that center of strength and consciousness. One of the mistakes we often make is to be less than we really are, sacrificing and losing our integrity thinking that this is love. We are actually detracting from the relationship and cheating ourselves and our partner of great richness. I will help both partners to feel safe to shine as SELF.
A very special part of my dedication to family evolution is for couples who realize they are no longer suited for each other, and want to move on. Separation still carries a stigma that weighs it down. This needen’t be……… I help people to move through separation gracefully and with dignity.
IN CASE OF SEPARATION THESE ARE SOME OF THE THINGS I COULD HELP YOU WITH
– I will help the separated parents to keep the communication channels open
– to put their children’s welfare above their resentment and anger
– to create a new dynamic for the children of two households with two set of rules, that makes sense to them
– to ease the children into accepting new partners in the lives of their parents
When separation is inevitable, it is SUPER important for your children to see you grow happy and confident with your new life. So that they can embrace change as positive. That they see us making choices, albeit very hard ones sometimes, that bring more peace and freedom to all involved. In other words, that they learn that no situation is a prison….we can all open our doors and walk forwards.